We’ve all been there. Someone—our child, a colleague, a friend—shows up in a way that feels totally unacceptable. Frustrating. Disrespectful. Maybe even infuriating. So, what do we do? React? Correct? Walk away?

In today’s episode, we unpack a simple but powerful truth: The real challenge isn’t in their behavior—it’s in how we see it.

Alan shares a raw, personal story about a moment of conflict with his son, Finn, and the unexpected lesson hidden within it. Bilos brings in powerful examples from leadership, parenting, and even the wild (yes, zebras make an appearance!).

Together, they explore:

🔥 How to stay calm and clear when someone’s behavior frustrates you.

🔥 Why ‘unacceptable behavior’ is often an illusion—and how to see what’s really going on.

🔥 The simple shift that helps you respond wisely instead of reacting emotionally.

🔥 How to take decisive action in difficult situations without regret.

This episode isn’t about tolerating bad behavior. It’s about seeing what’s really going on beneath the surface—both in others and in ourselves.

If you’ve ever struggled with how to respond when someone isn’t showing up the way you’d like, this episode is for you.

Produced in partnership with http://www.podlad.com

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