Relating to Self is a podcast that explores how we relate to ourselves. Joachim has conversations with interesting people to learn how they improve their relationship with themselves in order to bring positive change to their lives.
For Nissa, relating to self is on a deeper level than self-love. It is the ability to see and recognize who you are and where you are and to fully bring compassion and love to that. Self-love can overlook the reality. But relating to self pushes you to accept it and then love yourself. Joachim adds that relating to self happens even when you don't love yourself.
Our guest used to have a very rigid understanding of meditation, where you sit down with your legs crossed and that would be the only way. But over time she got to a point where she sees life itself as a meditation. She believes that any moment offers an opportunity to begin again.
Both discuss how when making a frequent small mistake, some people label themselves as a certain thing that makes that mistake. But that only gets them to identify as that thing and perpetuates the pattern. There is maybe this idea that "If I say it first, then they can't say it", that they will know we're aware of it and possibly working on it. But in labeling ourselves a certain way is accepting that this is how we are and that we can't be changed.
Nissa is working on a project called Sōsai, which is the Japanese word for counterbalance. The handle on Instagram is @sosaiorg and they are also on substack.com under the same name.
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