Beyond Words with Najwa Zebian 018- How to Choose Yourself After Someone Discards You
When someone stops choosing you, it can feel like being thrown away. In this heartfelt episode, Najwa explores the pain of being discarded, the illusion of lost worth, and the deep healing that begins when you finally choose yourself.
Timestamps / Chapters
00:00 – The Voice That Says “Choose Yourself”
The inner conflict between fear and truth — the voice that tells you to stay vs. the one that calls you home to yourself.
01:14 – The Pain of Being Discarded
The shock, confusion, and humiliation of feeling unwanted — and why it doesn’t define your worth.
04:18 – Stop Trying to Make Sense of It
Let go of trying to understand why someone stopped loving you. Some things aren’t meant to make sense.
05:24 – They Never Saw Your True Value
If their love vanishes overnight, they never truly saw you — only what they could gain from you.
08:59 – What Love Really Is
True love isn’t games or indifference — it’s safety, vulnerability, and care.
14:27 – When They Change Their Mind
Their change of heart isn’t your fault. Your integrity and truth remain untouched.
17:42 – The Fear of Being Alone
How fear convinces us to hold on — and how to replace it with self-compassion.
19:59 – Reclaiming Your Voice
Stop silencing yourself to be loved. Speak your truth, even if it costs you someone’s presence.
27:23 – Shifting the Question
From “How can I make them choose me?” to “How can I choose myself today?”
32:54 – Don’t Let Someone’s Trash Define You
When someone treats you like garbage, it reveals them — not you.
39:01 – Words That Found Me
Najwa reads from The Book of Healing:
“If I am not worth your apology, you are not worth me carrying the pain you caused.”
43:00 – Closing Reflection
The first person who owes you to choose you — is you.
💬 Key Takeaways
- Being discarded doesn’t erase your value.
- Stop explaining what they’ve already decided not to see.
- Healing begins the moment you choose yourself.