Why you need to focus on emotional intimacy (& not just sex)
Feb 7, 2024
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Sex and relationship therapist Christine Rafe discusses the complexities of intimacy beyond sex, including how to nurture emotional connections, repair intimacy after infidelity, and adapt relationships in challenging times. They emphasize the importance of emotional intimacy, diversifying support networks, and rebuilding trust through vulnerability and open communication.
Intimacy goes beyond physical closeness, encompassing emotional, experiential, spiritual, and intellectual connections essential for social well-being.
Establishing trust, sharing emotions, and communication are crucial for building and maintaining intimacy in relationships, emphasizing the importance of expressing needs and desires.
Deep dives
Defining Intimacy and its Importance
Intimacy encompasses various personal connections beyond just physical closeness, including emotional, experiential, spiritual, and intellectual aspects, crucial for human social well-being. Research suggests that social connectedness is vital for human survival akin to food and water, emphasizing the need for intimacy to foster a sense of closeness and connection with others.
Distinguishing Platonic and Romantic Intimacy
Platonic and romantic intimacy share similarities in emotional connection, vulnerability, and shared experiences. Physical touch and meaningful conversations are pivotal in both forms of intimacy. During COVID-19, the importance of platonic intimacy, like hugging friends, was highlighted as people craved closeness in the absence of usual interactions.
Nurturing and Restoring Intimacy in Relationships
Establishing trust, emotional sharing, and setting realistic goals are foundational for building intimacy. Communication about needs and desires is key to maintaining and restoring intimacy in relationships. Technologies, when used excessively, can hinder face-to-face interactions and should be moderated to enhance personal connections in relationships.
Everyone is talking about intimacy right now (and no, not just Esther Perel), so what is it, how do you cultivate it and can it be repaired after infidelity? Sex and relationship therapist Christine Rafe takes a deep dive into intimacy.
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