Unapologetically Sensitive

210 Not Feeling Good Enough: Self-Criticism, Healing and Vulnerability

Sep 26, 2023

The podcast explores topics such as feeling not good enough, self-criticism, healing, and vulnerability. The hosts discuss the importance of emotional intelligence, recognizing and managing emotions, self-awareness, and cultivating empathy. They also touch on recognizing and challenging negative self-talk, embracing imperfection, and the power of vulnerability in authentic relationships. The speakers share personal anecdotes about navigating pressure, expectations, health challenges, and disappointment. They emphasize the importance of authenticity and communication in friendships.

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Quick takeaways

Importance of self-compassion and embracing imperfection for personal growth.

Creating a safe space in relationships where vulnerabilities and insecurities are welcomed and understood.

Deep dives

Connecting through vulnerability and disappointment

The podcast hosts, Patricia and Jen, share a vulnerable and heartfelt conversation about disappointment and vulnerability in their relationship. They discuss their individual struggles with high expectations and over-responsibility, as well as the internal narratives and wounds that contribute to these behaviors. They explore the importance of holding things lightly and the need for self-compassion and curiosity. By openly discussing their own insecurities and fears, they model the possibilities of deepening intimacy, trust, and understanding in relationships. They emphasize the value of creating a safe space where all parts of oneself are welcome and acknowledged.

Introduction

3min

Navigating Pressure, Expectations, and Health Challenges

5min

Holding Oneself Lightly

19min

Managing Blame, Assessments, and Personal Space

2min

Bringing Awareness to Human Nature, Paradox, and Personal Anecdotes

3min

Motherhood, Food Secrets, and a Surprise Birthday Gift

2min

Disappointment, Vulnerability, and Authenticity

20min

Not Feeling Good Enough: Self-Criticism, Healing and Vulnerability

We talk about the origins of feeling not good enough, and even if you understand why you feel this way, you still may be stuck. At the end, Jen and I have a tearful moment that is bursting with vulnerability sharing something we have never talked about before. We talk about our own rigidity, inflexibility and having high expectations for others. We explore the power of naming what is going on in the moment, even when it may not be pretty, but it can be extremely powerful.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

· Importance of emotional intelligence in personal growth

· Recognizing and managing emotions in oneself and others

· Developing self-awareness and self-reflection skills

· Cultivating empathy and compassion for others

· Recognizing and challenging negative self-talk

· Embracing imperfection and self-love

· Benefits of self-acceptance and self-compassion

· Navigating life's transitions with grace and humor 9. Power of vulnerability in authentic relationships

· Importance of authenticity and vulnerability

· Internalizing criticism and creating negative self-stories

· Feeling unworthy and doing hurtful behaviors

· Intellectual understanding vs. deep feeling healing

· Integration of intellectual and emotional healing

· Pre-verbal experiences and difficulty expressing with words

· Benefits of unstructured play for emotional development

· Lowering expectations and finding freedom

· Holding oneself lightly and letting go of perfectionism

· Finding joy in the midst of life's pressures

· Cultivating a growth mindset and learning from mistakes

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is neurodivergent helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller free YouTube audiobook: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KPLXRvI_vQ

Jen’s Links

Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia’s Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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