Teach Me How To Adult Overcome The #1 Issue In Relationships To Build Secure Attachment And Confidence In Love, with Trevor Hanson
Struggling with relationship anxiety and fear of intimacy or rejection? This episode will guide you through anxious and avoidant attachment patterns, to the core healing that can help us find confidence and security in relationships.
I’m joined by Trevor Hanson, a marriage and family therapist who has helped thousands of individuals and couples heal attachment wounds and build secure, connected, confident relationships. His work has been featured by the Gottman Institute, and he’s the founder of The Art of Healing, where he teaches frameworks for transforming insecurity into emotional safety.
We break down the real reasons we often feel insecure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful in relationships… and how to finally feel secure, grounded, and confident in love. You’ll learn the tools, communication shifts, and emotional skills that create safe + connected relationships.
In this episode, we cover:
- How to build real confidence in relationships (and the cost of not working on your confidence)
- Why insecurity, fear, and jealousy appear — even in good relationships
- Practical tools for anxious attachment self-soothing
- Why fear is the #1 killer of relationships and how to move through it
- How avoidant partners can build emotional intimacy without feeling overwhelmed
- Fear-based motivation vs love-based motivation
- How to navigate communication “landmines’
- How to support a partner who feels fear or anxiety in the relationship
- The TEMPO framework and how it interrupts anxious spirals
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