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The Later Dater Today

#14 "I Haven't Dated Since 1999": Listener Question from Jennifer, 48

Aug 17, 2023
The podcast explores the influence of dating apps on self-perception, the importance of self-improvement in dating, and rethinking numbers when dating later in life.
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Quick takeaways

  • Dating apps contribute to viewing ourselves and others based on numerical attributes, hindering the dating experience.
  • Decoupling weight loss from dating can allow for a holistic representation of oneself and sustained attraction.

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Reframing Numbers in Dating

In this episode, Jennifer, a later dater who recently became single after her husband's passing, seeks advice on whether she should lose weight before she starts dating. The host discusses how later daters often think in terms of numbers and statistics, which can become a hindrance in modern dating. She highlights how dating apps contribute to viewing ourselves and others based on numerical attributes such as age and weight. The host suggests decoupling weight loss from the possibility of dating, encouraging Jennifer to see both goals as separate but equally valid. She recommends using weight loss as an opening for others to get to know her and to offer glimpses into her thoughts and interests related to health and well-being. Ultimately, the host emphasizes that sustained attraction comes from overall holistic health, rather than achieving a specific weight.

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