#40 Beyond Blame - with Dave Zwieback & Jerry Colonna

"The way to start would be, first, when we feel the tendency to blame, to try to get in touch with what it feels like to be holding on to ourselves so tightly. What does it feel like to blame? How does it feel to reject? What does it feel like to hate? What does it feel like to be righteously indignant?" - Pema Chodron There's something calming about finding a target for our blame. It's like in this moment of being lost in a rough sea of chaos and uncertainty, a person to assign the fault is like an unsinkable lifeboat to grasp. We climb aboard, take a deep breath, and relax. We do this as individuals, we do this in organizations, we do this as a society. But what incredibly valuable opportunities lie in resisting the urge to assign blame? What might we learn in what didn't (or did) work if we explore a bit more? Jerry is joined today by author and CTO Dave Zwieback to talk about just that. Dave, in his book "Beyond Blame," explores the fallacy of blame, how it fails to identify the immense complexity and interdependency of the world around us, and the real cost of rapidly assigning fault. If we pause and explore, we may just find that blame often prevents us from doing the very thing we want most - to learn and to grow. Links Dave Zwieback on Twitter - https://twitter.com/mindweather Beyond Blame by Dave Zwieback - http://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Blame-Learning-Failure-Success/dp/1491906413 The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni - http://www.amazon.com/Five-Dysfunctions-Team-Leadership-Fable/dp/0787960756 Daniel Kahneman - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daniel_Kahneman John Allspaw - https://twitter.com/allspaw Truth and Reconciliation Movement - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Truth_and_reconciliation_commission#The_South_African_TRC_and_after