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In this week’s episode, I’m talking to the one-and-only Bella DePaulo.

Bella DePaulo, PhD, is the leading expert on single life and has been described by The Atlantic as “America’s foremost thinker and writer on the single experience.” Bella coined the term ‘single at heart’, and her new book, Single At Heart, comes out on 5th December 2023. She is the author of Singled Out and How We Live Now, among other titles; has written the “Living Single” blog for Psychology Today since 2008; and has been published by the New York Times, the Washington Post, Time magazine, The Atlantic, and many other outlets. She has appeared on shows including The Today Show and Good Morning America. She has been interviewed on NPR, as well as on podcasts by CNN, The Atlantic, and others.

Bella’s TEDx talk, “What no one ever told you about people who are single,” has been viewed more than 1.6 million times.

In Part 1 of this interview about Bella’s new book, Single At Heart, topics that we cover are:

being ‘single at heart’ refers to those who live their best lives, and who flourish, being single;
how the stigma surrounding singles remains prevalent and how singles are still considered to be living a lesser life;
the idea that you cannot be truly fulfilled or ‘adult’ until you are part of a couple;
how the research studies show that a large number of people do not desire a partner, despite the assumption that everybody wants a romantic relationship;
the findings that show how many singles find that their lives get better and better the longer they’re single;
how singles are getting happier after the age of forty;
those people in relationships who are unable to live an authentic life as part of a couple;
how the single at heart relish having opportunities and possibilities, meaning that they live ‘psychologically rich’ lives;
how, if you’re single at heart, coupled life would be a smaller life, and single life can be an expansive life;
how when you’re single at heart, you can be genuinely happy for the married people with kids around you;
how Bella found that everyone she interviewed for Single At Heart cited freedom as one of the main benefits of being single;

Check out Bella’s website:
https://belladepaulo.com/

Pre-Order Bella’s New Book, Single At Heart (Amazon US):
https://www.amazon.com/Single-Heart-Power-Rewards-Uncoupled/dp/1954641281/?tag=wwwbelladepau-20

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Joe Carlson