583: Mentor-Mentee Fantasy Can Only End In Misery | Feedback Friday
Nov 5, 2021
Navigating complex mentor-mentee relationships gets real when unreciprocated feelings complicate professionalism. A long-married listener grapples with fantasying about a younger colleague, while discussions on gently encouraging an ambitious stepson to stand up to a financially dependent mother unfold. The impact of toxic workplace dynamics also takes center stage, emphasizing boundaries and effective communication. Additionally, tackling the emotional toll of familial dependencies adds depth, making for an engaging and insightful exchange.
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Prioritize Marriage Over Infatuation
Decide what to do about your marriage, regardless of your feelings for Chloe.
Address marital issues with your wife before revealing feelings to Chloe, if ever.
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Consider Children's Well-being
Consider the impact on your children before acting on feelings for Chloe.
Acknowledge that staying in an unhappy marriage isn't ideal for your children either.
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Process Unrequited Feelings
Accept unrequited feelings for someone, then deliberately put them away.
Seek therapy to process complex emotions surrounding unrequited feelings.
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Happily married for 20-something years, you've started to fixate on what it might be like to be married to someone you've been mentoring, instead. And even though you know this mentor-mentee fantasy could only end in misery, you're having a hard time putting it to rest. What can you do? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!
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Happily married for 20-something years, you've started to fixate on what it might be like to be married to someone you've been mentoring, instead. And even though you know this mentor-mentee fantasy could only end in misery, you're having a hard time putting it to rest. What can you do?
Your 18-year-old stepson is ambitious, with a well-paying job he's been using to save for university. But now his deadbeat mom is hitting him up for cash, which you know he'll never see again. How can you gently encourage him to stand up to her before he's as broke as she is?
You recently discovered that a toxic higher-up in your company is returning to the office after leaving for some time. How can you set boundaries and signal that you won't tolerate his toxic behavior this time around?
You and your ex-wife divorced when your son was only 11, and you've each moved on to more positive relationships while remaining amicable in the aftermath. But now that your son is 19, you wonder if he's owed a fuller explanation of the circumstances around the breakup lest he carries some of the burden himself?
Your dad can't seem to enjoy retirement because he's the kind of person who fills every moment of his days with charities, soup kitchens, chores, video chats, bible study, visits to friends, and more. He's tried counseling, medicine, meditation, yoga, breathing exercises, and books, but with no luck. How do you teach him to be retired and just relax?
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