

315 - Growth vs. Security: Finding Financial Peace in a Marriage of Opposites feat. Kirby
What happens when a freedom-loving visionary marries a safety-driven planner? In this honest and hilarious conversation, Dr. Lauryn teams up with her husband Kirby to unpack how their clashing money personas—growth vs. security—have challenged, strengthened, and ultimately deepened their marriage. If you’ve ever felt like you and your partner speak different financial languages, this episode will feel like a mirror (with some much-needed comic relief).
Lauryn and Kirby explore the “shadow” and “winning” sides of their money types, how those personas show up in business and home life, and why clear goals and core values are essential to keeping peace. They also share communication tactics, practical financial planning tips, and the deeply personal stories that shaped their views on money. Whether you’re the gas pedal or the guardrails, this episode offers tools and perspective to help your relationship thrive.
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Key Takeaways:
- Understand your financial persona: Lauryn and Kirby explore the “shadow” and “winning” sides of money types—growth/freedom vs. safety/security—and how understanding your own and your partner’s can transform communication.
- Plan when it’s calm, not when it’s chaotic: Creating shared financial values, goals, and systems before you’re in conflict helps guide decision-making when tensions rise.
- Use tools and language that unify: Tools like money quizzes and one-page financial philosophies give couples shared language and context, reducing blame and increasing empathy.
- Harmony comes from understanding, not sameness: The goal isn’t to become the same type—it’s to work in synergy, using your differences as a strength rather than a struggle.
Resources:
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