The Demartini Show SHIFT: Integrate Perceptions: How to Balance Your Mind and Master Your Emotions - EP 314
Nov 21, 2025
Discover how initial attraction can blind you to downsides, leading to infatuation that quickly turns into resentment. Learn to balance perceptions by asking the right questions—exploring downsides during infatuation and upsides during resentment. Through a clever stock market analogy, understand how to view both sides to stabilize your emotional reactions. Finally, master your life by training your mind with insights from the Demartini Method, aiming for a more balanced emotional experience.
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Infatuation Begins With a Search Image
- John Demartini describes meeting someone who matches your search image and ignites infatuation driven by the amygdala.
- He recounts how initial blindness to downsides leads to fantasies, insomnia, and eventual disappointment when flaws emerge.
Imbalanced Perceptions Drive Emotional Swings
- Demartini explains the swing from infatuation to resentment is due to imbalanced perceptions of upsides and downsides.
- He highlights that the person always contained both sides; the mind created the illusion of one-sidedness.
Ask What The Downsides Are Early
- Ask clear questions like "what are the downsides?" early to counteract impulse-driven infatuation.
- Use your intuition and forebrain to spot unseen flaws and prevent being swept away by impulse.