The Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast CNLP 477 | Jennie Allen on the Pain and Promise of Friendship, What to Do When You Naturally Resist Community and How to Find Your People
Feb 22, 2022
Jennie Allen, a NYT bestselling author and founder of If Gathering, shares her journey of grappling with friendships and the struggles of building community. She discusses the emotional challenges tied to relationships and offers strategies to overcome resistance to connection. Allen reflects on the impact of her pandemic-themed book, emphasizing authenticity and vulnerability in friendships. She also highlights the shift from communal living to isolation, urging listeners to cultivate true connections in an increasingly digital world.
AI Snips
Chapters
Books
Transcript
Episode notes
Jennie Allen's Panic Attack
- Jennie Allen experienced a panic attack after writing a book on community while feeling her own community falling apart.
- This moment revealed the vulnerability and challenges even leaders face in maintaining relationships.
Barriers to Vulnerability
- Shame and pain are the two main barriers preventing true vulnerability in friendships.
- Fear of being a burden or being hurt again keeps people from deepening relationships.
Loss of Village Community
- Modern society is one of the first to live without a village-like community.
- This isolation contrasts with historical humans who depended on tight-knit communities to survive.
