10CBF: A Podcast for Blended Families
S3-E11: "'The Daily Stepmom' and the Power of Positive Focus" with Joslynn Flowers
Today's guest is the excellent and energetic Joslynn Flowers, better known as the host of 'The Daily Stepmom'!
Joslynn is a mom of four, (three being her stepchildren) and a certified stepmom coach! Manager turned stay-at-home mom once Covid hit. In her time as a stepmom she has experienced the many struggles that come along with being a stepmom and the blending of a family. Feeling overwhelmed, misunderstood, and lonely in her role she began seeking a way to turn her stepmom experience from negative to a positive co-parenting experience, which hasn’t been easy! Dealing with many high conflict situations and multiple custody battles, ending with a CWS situation granting her husband full physical and legal custody, that almost broke her - to finally finding her place in her role as full time stepmom. She has even created a healthy working co-parent friendship with her stepchildren's mom. Joslynn loves to help other stepmoms do the same while creating healthy boundaries. Joslynn created and hosts a chart topping podcast called 'The Daily Stepmom Podcast.' There she talks about not just surviving but thriving in your role as a stepmom! Joslynn has been a featured speaker for The Stepmom Summit, The Ultimate Step Family Summit. She was named one of the Top 10 Podcasts in 2022 by SHE Magazine. She has been interviewed by Raise Parenting Magazine. She has also created a mini work book and an affirmation journal for stepmoms.
She loves to connect with others via her Instagram account so find her at Dailystepmom.
Quotes:
"It's important to acknowledge our feelings and not feel bad about them...but also don't stay there."
"Having different expectations can cause small issues to become larger issues. The key is to be able to have conversations about difficult topics."
"Always show respect, especially to my kids' mom, both her role and as their mother...This is not always done in co-parenting situations, and it leads to problems."
"You can't pour from an empty cup--time for self-care and reflection is critical for families."
"Your feelings are valid, but it's not OK to take out your frustrations on the people around you."
"One important thing for stepmothers to do is to find a community!"
Links
https://linktr.ee/Thedailystepmom