When women have sex with men, there’s an orgasm gap. However, this gap disappears when women have sex with other women. So why is that? In today’s show, we’re diving into some new research finding that women anticipate sex is going to follow a very different script based on the gender of their partner. It turns out that those scripts have big implications for their odds of orgasm.

I am joined once again by Carly Wolfer, a sex researcher, relationship scientist, and health educator whose work explores how to create more equitable and pleasurable sexual experiences. She’s currently working on her Ph.D. in Social Psychology at The CUNY Graduate Center.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

Why do women have more orgasms when they engage sexually with other women?
In what ways do women’s sexual expectations change when they have sex with women vs. men?
How can we mold our sexual scripts to support more equitable pleasure for women?
How can we change sex education to better support women’s pleasure?

You can connect with Carly on LinkedIn to follow her updates.

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