Welcome back to another episode of Know Your Physio—the podcast where we dive deep into the science of human potential and self-mastery. Today, I’m beyond excited to introduce a guest who truly embodies resilience and what it means to live with purpose: Dr. Chris Lee.

Dr. Chris Lee is not only a neuroscientist but also an entrepreneur and, most importantly, a compassionate human being whose journey has been shaped by immense personal challenges. He’s navigated the profound loss of his father, taken on the responsibility of being a single parent, and powered through the demanding grind of earning his doctorate. Through it all, Chris has developed an unparalleled understanding of the human nervous system and the true art of self-regulation.

In this episode, we dive into Chris’s personal “why”—a journey that started with heartache but has evolved into a beautiful, transformative philosophy. Chris shares his foundational mantra: “If the flower doesn’t bloom, you don’t blame the flower.” This mindset shift helped him reframe pain, purpose, and the environments that either limit or liberate us. It’s a powerful way to look at adversity—not as something to avoid, but as the very fuel for growth.

We talk about the stark difference between being driven by suffering versus being inspired by purpose. High performers, as Chris explains, often unknowingly uncover what truly regulates them and what doesn’t. We also explore the science of emotional intelligence, the importance of co-regulation in relationships, and how to thrive in an overstimulated world through "low-stimulation" habits.

This conversation is raw, real, and packed with insights that will challenge your understanding of success. It’s an invitation to embrace discomfort, redefine what “winning” really means, and discover the “unf*ckable” version of yourself that emerges when you do the inner work. Trust me—you don't want to miss this one.

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Topics Covered:

[00:02:29] Neuroscience and self-regulation journey.

[00:08:05] Pain as a catalyst for growth.

[00:12:56] Finding self-regulation through suffering.

[00:23:45] Skill development and dedication.

[00:34:22] Self-discovery through discomfort.

[00:40:06] Co-regulation in relationships.

[00:44:34] Doing right things for wrong reasons.

[00:48:29] Emotional suppression and its effects.

[00:58:14] Integration of fragmented identity.

[01:04:30] Vulnerability in masculinity.

[01:12:47] First date job interview vibe.

[01:16:20] Defining love through shared experiences.

[01:19:30] Synchronicity and spiritual connection.

[01:30:07] Conflict versus combat in relationships.

[01:42:14] Intimacy in relationships.

[01:48:49] Strategy for podcast growth.

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