Simply Always Awake Disappointment with People
Nov 7, 2023
Explore the consequences of mistaking expectations for reality and how distorted expectations can lead to bad situations. Gain insights on how changing perspectives can impact interactions with others.
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Confusing Reality with Expectations
- We often confuse what's happening with what we think should be happening.
- This distorts our perception of reality and leads to disappointment.
Party Anxiety and Self-Soothing
- Imagine feeling anxious at a party and expecting someone to soothe you.
- This unspoken expectation leads to a chain of reactions (e.g., drinking, smoking) to self-soothe.
Drop the "Shoulds"
- Observe what happened without adding "should" statements (e.g., "They should apologize.").
- Consider the cost of these "should" statements: they mostly cause self-suffering.