Securely Attached Q&A: Is it normal for my toddler to constantly say they're sorry for everything?
Nov 27, 2025
This conversation dives into why toddlers often say 'I'm sorry' even when nothing's wrong. Experts discuss how this behavior connects to child development and the 'theory of mind.' They explore how parental reactions can inadvertently reinforce this habit. Listeners learn effective phrases to help children express themselves more accurately, rather than fostering unnecessary apologies. The hosts also outline when frequent apologizing may be a cause for concern, providing insights for guiding young ones with empathy and confidence.
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Toddlers Are Practicing Theory Of Mind
- Two-year-olds often repeat phrases as they practice new social skills like theory of mind.
- They say "I'm sorry" to try out noticing others' feelings, not because they feel guilt or responsibility.
Reassurance Can Reinforce The Habit
- Repetition in toddlers is both developmental practice and a learned loop because of adult reactions.
- Immediate soothing or reassurance can unintentionally reinforce the apology habit.
Narrate Observations Instead Of Reassuring
- Narrate what the child noticed instead of saying "You don't have to be sorry."
- Use phrases like, "Oh, you noticed I stubbed my toe," to teach accurate observation language.