You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes We Made It Weird #238
Jan 24, 2026
A candid conversation about how illness softens defenses and reveals tenderness. They swap comfort-movie picks and recall the camaraderie of early touring. The pair debates masculinity, competition, and why men struggle with close, nonromantic intimacy. They also examine tech addiction, quitting Instagram, and using exercise and small routines to reclaim meaningful rewards.
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Canceling Shows Because Of Illness
- Pete canceled multiple shows after getting very sick and described lying on the bathroom tile while vomiting.
- He felt guilty but insisted tickets remain valid and promised to reschedule North and South Carolina dates.
Sickness Widens The Heart
- Pete notices illness opens his heart and makes him tender and emotionally receptive to movies and friendship.
- He links being physically vulnerable with accessing generosity and warmth he normally protects against.
Moved By Female Friendship On Film
- Pete and Valerie watched A League of Their Own and Pete cried at the female friendships and baseball scenes.
- He contrasted that tender reaction with his discomfort at male displays of affection shaped by competition.
