Should you reveal a complex family secret to your stepson against his mother's wishes? How to support a partner with a history of abuse in intimacy. Dealing with intrusive in-laws and setting boundaries. Navigating communication challenges when working with family.
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Quick takeaways
It may be necessary to reevaluate a relationship if a partner continues to pull away without making progress or showing interest in resolving the issue.
Open and honest communication with a partner who pulls away in relationships is crucial, including encouraging therapy and understanding their perspective.
Dealing with overbearing in-laws requires setting boundaries with your spouse and directly addressing the issue with your in-laws, expressing gratitude while asserting your need for independence and privacy as a couple.
Deep dives
Questioning the Opportunity
The listener's sister-in-law offered them a job, but after doing some preliminary work, there has been no further discussion about the position. The listener is confused and unsure if they should pursue it or look for another remote job.
Signs of a Poor Working Relationship
The sister-in-law's lack of communication and wishy-washy behavior raise concerns about the working relationship. This could indicate potential difficulties in the future and might not be a good fit.
Consider Letting the Opportunity Go
Given the unclear communication and potential family dynamics involved, it may be better for the listener to let go of this opportunity and search for a different remote job to pursue their dream.
Dealing with a Partner Who Pulls Away in Relationships
If your partner pulls away in relationships, it is important to have open and honest communication about the behavior. Encourage your partner to share their reasons for pulling away and listen to understand their perspective. Support them in seeking therapy to gain clarity and work on the issue. However, if your partner continues to pull away without making progress or showing interest in resolving the issue, it may be necessary to reevaluate the relationship.
Navigating Interference from Overbearing In-Laws
If you are dealing with overbearing in-laws, it's crucial to have a conversation with your spouse about their behavior and how it affects you. Help your spouse see the impact of their parents' overinvolvement and set boundaries together. However, consider the timing of the conversation, especially if your spouse is going through medical treatment or facing other significant challenges. Alternatively, you can directly address the issue with your in-laws, expressing gratitude for their support while kindly asserting your need for independence and privacy as a couple.
Your stepson doesn't know your late husband wasn't his real father. Is it your place to clue him in against his mother's wishes? Welcome to Feedback Friday!
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On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
Your adult stepson doesn't know your late husband wasn't his biological father. Is it your place to clue him in against his mother's wishes? [Thanks to licensed marriage and family therapist Nancy Yen for helping us with this one!]
You're deeply in love with someone who professes the same toward you, but a prior history of abuse makes her skittish about intimacy. How do you support her through these times while protecting yourself from being hurt every time she pushes you away?
You and your cancer-battling wife are overjoyed to have a new child, but you sure could use a break from the incessant interference of your intense in-laws. How do you get them off your back and protect your family from their destructively overprotective tendencies?
Should you pursue an implied job with your wishy-washy in-laws, or take their poor communication skills as a sign that maybe you're better off without taking them on as co-workers?
Want clarification about how woolly mammoths might once again walk the earth? Here are some updates from our recent guest Ben Lamm!
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!