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In This Episode — Meet Jaemin Frazer 🔥

Jaemin Frazer is an award-winning life coach, author, and founder of The Insecurity Project. Recognized as one of Australia’s leading personal development coaches and a global authority on personal insecurity, Jaemin brings an engineering mindset to human change—treating insecurity like a solvable systems problem. His work helps entrepreneurs, leaders, and creators eradicate insecurity so they can show up unhindered by doubt, fear, and self-limiting beliefs.

Big Ideas

🔎 Insecurity defined: not fear of failure or rejection per se—but fear that your worst opinion of yourself might be confirmed.

🧠 Name it to tame it: “Named must your fear be…”—precision collapses vague monsters into solvable problems.

🧒 Childhood origins: early, often tiny moments lead us to implicate ourselves and form limiting opinions before age seven.

🧩 Opinion vs. reality: it’s not others’ words that wound—it’s the ones we agree with. Agreement is the mechanism.

🚀 Rocket fuel (then drag): insecurity can drive elite performance in our 20s/30s, but becomes corrosive in midlife.

🧭 The hero’s journey: courageously revisit the “first accusation,” review the data, and rewrite the verdict.

🗝️ The moment of freedom: change happens in a moment when you see the old opinion was unfounded—and choose a new one.

🛠️ Seven practices: a pragmatic path from managing insecurity to eradicating it (Jaemin’s Unhindered model).

🧍‍♂️➡️🧑‍🤝‍🧑 Leadership upgrade: leading with nothing to prove increases clarity, boundaries, and trust.

💞 Relationships: two insecure people exhaust each other; the best love flows from self-acceptance.

🙅 People-pleasing decoded: a protection strategy to seem “good” when you doubt your own goodness.

📻 The One Minute Coach: 365 concise, embodied ideas—short content with real-world integrity.

🌐 Tech & comparison: insecurity is universal; platforms accelerate the feedback loop, but didn’t invent the fear.

🏁 Finish well: unresolved insecurity in later life becomes a descent into madness; resolve it to return “home.”

Connect with Jaemin Frazer

Website: https://jaeminfrazer.com

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