How to Stop People-Pleasing with Sara Fisk

Jun 6, 2023

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Do you question every decision you make? Do you spend hours agonizing over what people will think of you or the actions you take in your business?
Do you replay situations in your mind, lose sleep over how you could have said or done things differently, or worry about disappointing others?
Luckily, today’s guest is an expert on people-pleasing who can help you learn to stop making other people comfortable at your own expense. Introducing Sara Fisk, the Stop People Pleasing Coach and host of the Ex-Good Girl Podcast.
In today’s episode, Sara defines people-pleasing and shares some of the steps you can take to train yourself to stop “perfectionating” and free yourself from the crippling fear of what others may think.
We also touch on the power of internal validation, how people-pleasing shows up differently for each of us, and how to create safe spaces for ourselves.

Here’s a sneak peek of what we discuss:

Why Sara says that her work is 100% autobiographical.
How coaching offered her a “second-half-of-life career.”
People-pleasing as a defense mechanism and why women are more susceptible to it.
The power of internal versus external validation.
Defining people-pleasing
Ways that people-pleasing tendencies manifest as women build their businesses.
Three steps to stop people-pleasing: pause, forecast, and pick your discomfort.
What it means to study urgency and why it’s important.
How people-pleasing shows up differently for different people.
The relationship between people-pleasing and cancel culture.
Why it’s important to allow yourself to feel negative emotions.
How to create “safe spaces” for yourself by learning to recognize your brain bully.
Tips for coping with the discomfort of freeing yourself from people-pleasing.
How to reclaim your time and energy when you stop people-pleasing.
Practical advice for setting boundaries in your business.

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