The Becket Cook Show 4 Easy Steps to Deal with SSA: Jason Mellard Testimony
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Nov 6, 2025 
In this engaging conversation, Jason Mellard, a coach and podcaster, shares his transformative journey from childhood trauma and same-sex attraction to healing and faith. He introduces his Four S Framework—Separation, Sensation, Sin, and Story—designed to help men understand their struggles. Jason candidly discusses his experiences with sexual abuse, family dynamics, and the profound impact of his father's struggles. Ultimately, he highlights how rediscovering faith and community led him to a fulfilling life as a husband and father.
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Four S Framework Explains SSA Dynamics
- Jason Mellard frames same-sex attraction as four S's: Separation, Sensation, Sin, and Story to simplify complexity.
- He argues the story we tell ourselves often determines whether we remain stuck or move forward.
Feeling Of Separateness Drives Attraction
- Mellard identifies a core driver of same-sex attraction as a persistent feeling of separateness from masculinity, God, or others.
- That separateness fuels a longing to connect with an idealized masculine identity or fill spiritual voids.
Start With Story, Then Use Sensations As Cues
- Start by examining the story you tell about your attractions before tackling habits or deeper issues.
- Use present triggers (sensations) as cues to investigate underlying insecurities instead of reacting impulsively.