The Baggage Reclaim Sessions Ep. 211: Too Good To Be True?
Feb 5, 2021
Diving into the unsettling feeling of perfection, the discussion unpacks why too-good-to-be-true moments can trigger unease. It explores how idealizing others and past experiences shape our views, leading to suspicion of genuine kindness. The significance of vulnerability in breaking down facades and the phenomenon of 'future-faking' reveals ulterior motives behind seemingly perfect scenarios. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own perfectionism, with authenticity championed as the key to discerning sincere connections.
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Unease Signals Risk Aversion
- Feeling that something is too good to be true often signals our risk-averse brain protecting against potential loss.
- Natalie Lue explains this unease comes from fearing rejection, disappointment, and life's inevitables.
Pedestals Create False Perfection
- Putting someone on a pedestal inflates our perception and creates willful blindness to their humanness.
- Natalie Lue warns this sets us up for disappointment and resentment when reality unfolds.
Kindness Can Trigger Suspicion
- Deep suspicion of decent behavior often stems from past experience with shady people.
- Natalie Lue notes we may assume ulterior motives because basic kindness doesn't match our identity.
