The Married Game Wizard With Steven And Marianne Kalas
Aug 31, 2023
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Steven and Marianne Kalas join the hosts to discuss Enneagram personality types, embracing the radical 'we,' dealing with grievances, and understanding different types for deeper connections in love.
Creating a safe space for open communication helps couples work through grievances and build a stronger relationship.
The 'radical we' approach emphasizes subordinating individual identity for the unity and growth of the partnership.
Understanding different Enneagram personality types can help couples navigate differences and find harmony in their relationship.
Deep dives
The importance of addressing and understanding grievances in a marriage
In a marriage, it is crucial to have a mechanism for addressing grievances and complaints. The speaker emphasizes the need to give each other the benefit of the doubt and approach conflicts with curiosity rather than defensiveness. By creating a safe space for open communication, couples can work through their issues and build a stronger relationship.
The concept of the radical we in a marriage
The speaker introduces the concept of the radical we, which emphasizes that marriage is about subordinating one's individual identity to the unity of the partnership. Both individuals in a marriage are accountable to each other and have a responsibility to consider the impact of their actions on the relationship. The radical we approach encourages couples to prioritize the collective well-being and growth of the relationship.
The dynamic between different Enneagram personality types in a relationship
The Enneagram, a personality model, is discussed in relation to how different personality types interact in a relationship. The speaker highlights that each type brings unique qualities and challenges to the partnership. For example, sevens are enthusiastic and live in the present moment, while sixes are loyal and fear-driven. Understanding these dynamics can help couples navigate differences and find harmony in their relationship.
The value of having a coach or therapist in a marriage
Having a coach or therapist can provide valuable guidance and insight in a marriage. The speaker shares his personal experience of working with a coach and supervisor, who has helped him gain new perspectives and challenge his own assumptions. A coach can help couples navigate difficult situations, address underlying issues, and improve communication, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and satisfying relationship.
The journey of personal growth within a marriage
The speaker emphasizes that marriage is a growth-oriented journey, where individuals are faced with the challenge of evolving and improving themselves. It is important to recognize that both partners are flawed and imperfect, and that the relationship provides an opportunity for personal growth. Approaching marriage with curiosity, humility, and a willingness to learn from mistakes can lead to a deeper and more resilient bond.
In this episode, Keith and Jess are both joined by Steven and Marianne Kalas, and they discuss the Enneagram personality types, how different energies shape your relationship, embracing the radical "we," how to deal with grievances, and how understanding different personality types can lead to deeper connections and a transformative journey in love.
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