The Longing Lab Valentine Special: My husband Dave Butler on relationships, intimacy, and vulnerability
Episode 9: In this Valentine’s Day special, Dave speaks with Amanda about how their relationship developed from meeting to getting married, the pivotal moments during their 11-month-courtship, and the importance of seeing a couple’s therapist.
Dave Butler is my husband, life partner, and the father of our child Moorea. He is also an environmental scientist, project manager, and geologist. Originally from Long Island, Dave was a drummer in a NYC-based band called Nuclear Cream Cheese. He is an ultra mountain trail runner, a New York Yankees fan, and a reformed Catholic.
In this episode, (in order) we talked about…
*How longing transpires in our lives
*How we met each other before we really met each other
*The questionable rebound zone
*Our first date and our first kiss (his firsts in 20 years)
*His “freedom tour" plan following his divorce
*Communicating versus playing games in relationships (work or personal)
*How he first met my parents and grandma in Ohio without me
*His first response to learning I was a 40-year-old virgin
*Visiting our respective therapists together in the first two months of dating
*Our four-day trip to Paris
*The moments we revealed our love for each other in spoken and written word
*Our response to having sex for the first time together
*The marriage proposal
*Why we see a therapist once a month
*Dangers and benefits in comparing past relationships
*Advice he’ll give our daughter on love and relationships
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