The 5 Keys to Love & Growth After 40

In this heartfelt and hilariously real episode of Life Check Yourself, I’m joined by my longtime friend and soul sister Bobbi Palmer. Bobbi became a first-time bride at 47, is now divorced, and back in the dating game at 66—this time with more confidence, peace, and joy than ever. She's a nationally recognized dating coach for women over 40, and in this conversation, we dive into the TRUTH about what dating looks like when you’re grown, wise, and absolutely done with BS.

Whether you’re single, newly divorced, or wondering if it’s “too late” for you (spoiler: it’s not), this episode will have you laughing, crying, and most importantly—believing again.

 

 

🔥 Top 3 Takeaways:

1. You’re Not Too Late—You’re Right on Time Love doesn’t expire. The moment you take responsibility and rediscover who you are, the game changes.

2. Fix Your "Man Picker" By Feeling, Not Listing It’s not about height, salary, or education. It’s about how you feel—safe, respected, sexy, and seen.

3. Control Is an Illusion—Let Go and Let Love In You don’t have to control how it happens. You just have to show up, do the work, and stay open.

 

 

💡 Core Topics + Time-Stamped Highlights

🕒 05:06 – Fall In Love With Your Grown-Up Self

“That woman you were before the hard marriage—she’s still there.” Before re-entering the dating world, Bobbi shares how the biggest challenge wasn’t external—it was about re-connecting with the part of herself that had been muted. The foundation of any new relationship starts with reclaiming your worth.

🕒 13:30 – How To Know If You’re “Too Picky” or Just Guarded

“You need to feel safe, respected, sexy… That’s what sustains a long-term relationship.” When fear drives the dating checklist, it turns into control. Real discernment means focusing on emotional connection—not resume details. Filtering by height or alma mater? That’s fear, not standards.

🕒 22:36 – Take Responsibility (Without Shame)

“I was the common denominator in all my failed relationships.” Healing happens when you stop pointing fingers and start asking better questions. Bobbi’s reframe around her 18-year marriage is powerful: “It wasn’t all bad. I chose it, I learned, I grew—and now I know better.”

 

 

✨ Notable Mic-Drop Moments

“Being brave isn’t not being afraid—it’s moving forward anyway.”

“It’s your fear of rejection that’s getting you rejected.”

“There is a man out there who will love you for exactly who you are.”

 

 

This is one of those episodes to bookmark, re-listen to, and send to your sister-friend who’s secretly lost hope.

Whether you’re in a small town, fresh out of a relationship, or feeling like all the good men are taken—Bobbi and I are here to remind you: hope is not foolish, it’s fuel.

🌟 Learn more about Bobbi and grab her free resources at datinglikeagrownup.com 📺 Watch this episode on YouTube for bangs-envy and bonus sass 💌 Subscribe for more episodes that will life check your heart, soul, and inbox

 

 

 

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