

Why we mourn on the internet
18 snips Aug 22, 2025
Social media has reshaped how we express grief, creating a digital space for mourning. The nuances of sharing personal loss raise questions about seeking support versus attention. The communal aspect of grief, especially among students mourning a teacher, contrasts with celebrity grief, revealing emotional complexities. Additionally, concerns about privacy in location sharing highlight risks for vulnerable users. This discussion unpacks the delicate balance of mourning publicly while navigating safety in an increasingly connected world.
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Sharing Restores Agency
- Posting grief online gives people a sense of agency and control over the narrative during helpless moments.
- Public sharing also creates a space where others can gather and offer support, reducing isolation.
Preferring Private Mourning
- Yu Shan avoids posting personal losses and breakups because she values a private inner space for grief.
- She feels public posts let everyone enter that room and makes her uncomfortable.
Visible Posts Skew Perception
- Silent private mourners may exist alongside vocal online mourners, so visible posts don't represent everyone.
- Social feeds can make public sharing seem like the default even when many stay silent.