Jack Savage, an advice columnist, visits this podcast to discuss various topics related to sex. They explore the taboo nature of discussing sex in American culture, changing attitudes towards sex education, the impact of the HIV AIDS pandemic on public discussions about sex, polyamory, the role of narratives in relationships, establishing boundaries, and the importance of consensual and playful sex.
Sex can encompass various activities beyond penetrative intercourse, such as oral sex and mutual masturbation, allowing for more diverse and fulfilling encounters.
Utilizing dating and hookup apps designed for LGBTQ+ individuals can be effective in exploring one's sexuality with others.
Embracing openness and variety in relationships, both inside and outside the bedroom, can maintain excitement and enhance sexual connection over time.
Deep dives
The Importance of Broadening the Definition of Sex
Having a broad definition of sex allows for a wider range of sexual experiences and can lead to more fulfilling and diverse encounters. It is essential to recognize that sex encompasses more than just penetrative intercourse, including activities like oral sex, mutual masturbation, and shared fantasies. By embracing a broader definition of sex, individuals can open themselves up to exploring various forms of pleasure and connection.
Exploring Bisexuality and Sexual Curiosity
For someone who has recently come out as bisexual and wants to explore their sexuality with other women, there are several avenues to consider. Utilizing dating apps and hookup apps specifically designed for LGBTQ+ individuals can be an effective way to meet other women who are also interested in exploring their desires. It's important to remember that sex is subjective, and what constitutes a sexual encounter is a personal definition. Engaging in open and honest communication with potential partners is crucial in order to establish boundaries, expectations, and preferences.
Embracing Openness and Variety in Relationships
Embracing openness and variety in relationships can help maintain a sense of excitement and adventure over time. Relationships naturally evolve, and it's common for the initial spark to diminish. To combat this, couples can consciously choose to go on new adventures together both inside and outside the bedroom. This may involve trying different sexual practices, experimenting with toys, or exploring new fantasies. Incorporating elements of risk and novelty can reignite the sense of adventure and enhance the overall sexual connection within the relationship.
Importance of Acting on Kinks
Acting on kinks is not about making light of trauma, but rather about embracing a community where individuals can freely express themselves without shame. This community allows for self-discovery, acceptance, and rewards individuals for embracing their desires.
Consent and Establishing Boundaries
The concept of the zone of erotic autonomy highlights the importance of recognizing and respecting the boundaries of one's partner in a relationship. While being in a relationship does not give one the right to police their partner's sexual and emotional lives, it is crucial to have open and honest communication about desires, fantasies, and attractions. Trust, consideration, and setting reasonable expectations are key to maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship.