110: Opened: Polyamory, Desire, and Sexual Empowerment with Courtney Boyer

Today I’m thrilled to welcome Courtney Boyer back to the podcast.

Courtney is a relationship coach and the author of "Not Tonight, Honey" and her upcoming memoir "Opened" (available this October).

This new book is raw, vulnerable, and deeply powerful.

Courtney takes us inside her journey of breaking free from the grip of purity culture and patriarchy, and how she began reclaiming both her sexual and emotional power.

For her, that awakening led to a surprising realization: she wanted to open her 17-year marriage and explore relationships with other men — while her husband chose to remain monogamous.

We dive into:

✨ What it really takes to shed shame and rewrite your sexual story

✨ The complexities (and courage) of navigating desire inside marriage

✨ How to advocate for what you want - sexually-speaking and otherwise

✨ How sexual empowerment and self-discovery can look very different for each of us

This conversation isn’t just about polyamory — it’s about permission.

Permission to want what you want. Permission to question the rules you were given. And permission to create a life that feels authentic and expansive, even if it doesn’t look like anyone else’s.

Here’s to moving forward with love, openness, and curiosity,

Debbie 💗

You can view this episode on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/6AaoKiM1DyA

Here's Courtney's bio:

Courtney Boyer, M.Ed. M.S., is a relationship coach and author of Not Tonight, Honey and Opened. She has been featured in publications including The New York Post, Parent's, CNBC, The Huffington Post, and Cosmopolitan. Courtney helps women deconstruct purity culture, patriarchy, and performative perfectionism so they can reclaim their power, embody emotional sovereignty, and build wildly authentic lives — rooted in trust, pleasure, and unapologetic truth. Courtney is a polyamorous mother of three happily married to a monogamous man.

To connect with Courtney:

Website: https://www.courtneyboyercoaching.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/courtneyboyercoaching/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/courtneyboyercoaching/

Thanks for listening!

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