Comedian Jes Tom discusses dating apps, the need for a black queer specific app, pronouns in the queer community, embracing femininity as a trans masc person, differences between lesbian sex and sex with men, using comedy to explore gender identity, and finding comfort in queer and trans spaces.
Navigating the complexities of pronouns as a comedian and the challenges of feeling genuine and meeting expectations.
The limited representation of diverse gender identities in the entertainment industry and the challenges of being overlooked or misrepresented based on race and gender.
Deep dives
Navigating Different Dating Apps
In this podcast episode, the hosts discuss their experiences and preferences with different dating apps, specifically Grindr and lesbian-oriented apps like Lex. They share their thoughts on the different cultures and dynamics within these apps, touching on topics such as safety, preferences, and the desire for a lesbian equivalent of Grindr.
Exploring Gender Identity and Pronouns
The hosts engage in a conversation about gender identity and pronouns. They discuss the complexities and challenges of pronoun usage, particularly as a comedian who often gets asked about their pronouns. They share personal experiences of navigating pronouns, including the challenges of feeling genuine and dealing with the expectations of others.
Confidence and Attractiveness While Transitioning
The hosts dive into the topic of confidence and attractiveness during the transitioning process. They share personal experiences and reflections on how their perceptions of themselves have changed throughout their transitions. They discuss the challenges of societal beauty standards and the empowerment that comes with embracing one's unique identity.
Navigating Hollywood as a Queer and Trans Person
The hosts explore the dynamics of navigating the entertainment industry as queer and trans individuals. They discuss the limited representation of diverse gender identities and the challenges of casting. They share personal experiences of feeling overlooked or misrepresented, particularly in regards to race and gender.
Comedian Jes Tom figures out their pronouns, talks the art of the 35-minute Grindr hookup, and shares about naviagating Hollywood as a transmasc twink.
Hosted by Ally Beardsley and Babette Thomas, Gender Spiral is a quest to explore the modern experience of being a human in our gendered world.