Heroic Chat with Lanny Bassham: Trusting Instead Of Trying
Feb 12, 2024
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Lanny Bassham, an expert in Mental Management®, shares his inspiring journey from being the worst athlete to becoming an Olympic rifle shooter. He discusses the influence of supportive guides and parents, the importance of mental toughness and a winning mindset, the three aspects of the mental management system, the significance of reinforcement in performance, and the role of parents as mental coaches. They also explore the ultimate game and building character.
Parents should focus on praising their children's efforts and accomplishments to develop a growth mindset and a strong self-image.
Reinforcing positive behaviors and attitudes, evaluating successes, and creating plans for improvement are crucial for building self-image and fostering continuous growth.
Deep dives
The Importance of Building Self-Image and Reinforcing Success
Building a strong self-image and reinforcing success are essential for achieving greatness. Parents play a crucial role in shaping their children's self-image and should focus on praising their efforts and accomplishments. By asking questions that highlight what went well, what needs work, and what can be done differently in the future, parents can help their children develop a growth mindset and a passion for improvement. Reinforcing positive behaviors and attitudes is key to building a strong self-image and fostering a mindset of continuous growth.
The Three Phases of Performance: Anticipation, Action, and Reinforcement
Every performance or task consists of three phases: anticipation, action, and reinforcement. The anticipation phase involves conscious thoughts and preparation, while the action phase is focused on subconscious execution. The third phase, reinforcement, is often overlooked but crucial for building self-image. After completing a task or attempt, it is important to evaluate what was done right and reinforce it by acknowledging and celebrating those successes. Additionally, determining what needs work and creating a plan to address those areas is vital for continued improvement. Responding appropriately to every performance and focusing on solutions rather than dwelling on mistakes is key to developing mental consistency and growing self-image.
The Power of Becoming and Cultivating Character
While accomplishment is often associated with measurable results or achievements, becoming and character development are equally, if not more important. Achievement alone does not define a person's self-image or lasting success. Parents and coaches should shift their focus from solely emphasizing achievement to cultivating character and instilling values. Recognizing and praising the traits and behaviors that contribute to personal growth, such as respect, perseverance, and responsibility, helps individuals develop a strong sense of self and a mindset of continuous improvement. By embracing the process of becoming, individuals can achieve long-term success and fulfillment.
Rewarding Positive Effort and Intrinsic Motivation
Intrinsic motivation plays a vital role in individual growth and accomplishment. Parents and coaches should strive to discover each individual's intrinsic motivations and provide opportunities for their genuine interests and passions to thrive. By focusing on effort and progress rather than solely on outcome or achievement, individuals are encouraged to develop a growth mindset and develop resilience in the face of challenges. Rewarding positive efforts and acknowledging dedication and improvement are powerful tools for nurturing intrinsic motivation and building self-image.
In today’s Heroic Chat, we are joined by Lanny Bassham.
For the past 34 years, Lanny has been teaching Mental Management® to Olympians, business owners, Fortune 500 Corporations and the elite of sport and business community.
He is the author of Parenting Champions, and With Winning in Mind.