When Healthy Boundaries are Broken w/ Sola Oluborode

Nov 24, 2022

Sola Oluborode's friend-turned-romantic partner exhibited toxic traits she had initially overlooked. The podcast explores the challenges of transitioning from friendship to romance, the use of personas and gifts in relationships, boundaries and clinginess after intimacy, the burden of mind reading with narcissistic individuals, toxic dynamics and gaslighting, and the emotional exhaustion caused by a toxic relationship.

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Introduction

00:00 • 2min

From Friendship to Toxic Relationship: The Story of Shala

01:33 • 4min

Navigating the Transition from Friendship to Romance

05:11 • 15min

Exploring the Concept of Persona Name

20:05 • 2min

Exploring Personas, Gifts, and Boundaries in Relationships

21:35 • 7min

The Burden of Mind Reading in Relationships with Narcissistic Individuals

28:11 • 3min

Toxic Dynamics and Gaslighting

30:45 • 21min

Toxic Relationship and Emotional Exhaustion

51:58 • 17min

Sola Oluborode's long time friend became her romantic partner after he initially passed the test of her healthy boundaries. But once they were official, he started treating her differently - and not in a good way. Sola realized that the quirks she saw in him while they were just friends, were actually toxic traits she later encountered. Listen to this episode and learn how Sola chose to do all the right things, being friends, setting boundaries, and yet still got into a hurtful and gaslit relationship.

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Guest Bio:

A native Detroiter of Nigerian descent, Sola Oluborode is an educator in neurodiversity, vocalist, artist, writer, and editor. She empowers children and adults through the development of literacy skills and supports Black-owned businesses around the world through design, composition, and content creation. Sola is passionate about celebrating Black people, culture, joy, and the Black aesthetic. As a woman with ADHD overcoming childhood and recent experiences of emotional abuse, Sola is committed to using her voice as an instrument of healing. Her favorite pastimes include succumbing to a lifelong sugar addiction, traveling, and gushing over beautiful images of Black people in yellow.

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