Dr. Ellen Hendriksen, a clinical psychologist and author, delves into the pitfalls of perfectionism and imposter syndrome. She shares strategies for fostering self-acceptance while embracing our human flaws. The conversation highlights the difference between values and goals, emphasizing emotional insights for personal growth. With relatable anecdotes, she discusses the joy of learning and the importance of accepting imperfections in ourselves and others. Ellen’s insights provide a roadmap for shifting from self-criticism to self-compassion.
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Understanding Perfectionism
Perfectionism can stem from childhood experiences, including conditional love based on performance. It can manifest as self-criticism and over-evaluation of one's worth based on achievements.
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Engage with Your Inner Critic
When faced with self-critical thoughts, try to engage with them without judgment. Recognize that these thoughts are not facts and can be reframed or even made humorous.
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Practice Self-Compassion
Try to change your relationship with self-criticism by accepting that it's part of your wiring. Understand that these thoughts don't define your worth or capabilities.
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Today’s episode is with Clinical Psychologist and author, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen. Her new book is called How to Be Enough: Self-Acceptance for Self-Critics and Perfectionists. What a great title! Ellen shares the truth behind perfectionism and why many of us never feel quite ‘good enough.’ Ever feel imposter syndrome? Most of us do. She delivers amazing advice on how we can allow for mistakes (because we’re human!) without lowering our expectations or standards. She discusses how we can move from self-criticism to kindness, from control to authenticity, from procrastination to productivity and from comparison to, finally, contentment. She gives us the roadmap for finding self-acceptance and even some tips on how we can rewrite our own Inner Rulebook. If you’re wired to be judgmental of yourself and others…and who isn’t!! You’ll find this to be incredibly helpful.
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