Hot and Healthy Hookups and Sexual Citizenship with Allison Moon (Interview)
Jun 14, 2023
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Allison Moon, sex educator and author, joins Effy to discuss hot, healthy, shame-free hookups and sexual citizenship. They explore the reasons behind hookups, question societal norms, explore sexual citizenship, and emphasize communication and consent in sexual encounters.
Treating sexual partners with dignity and respect is crucial in hookup culture.
Exploring one's own desires and preferences through casual sexual experiences can be beneficial and empowering.
Deep dives
Exploring Hookup Culture and Healthy Relationships
Hookup culture and the exploration of open, authentic, loving relationships are discussed in this podcast episode. The hosts delve into topics such as jealousy, polyamory, and the importance of communication in casual sexual encounters. They emphasize the need to challenge societal norms and expectations around sex and relationships. The episode highlights the significance of self-awareness, establishing boundaries, and treating sexual partners with dignity and respect. It also encourages individuals to embrace their own sexual expression and explore their desires in a safe and considerate manner.
Understanding Hookup Motivations and Sexual Exploration
The podcast delves into the reasons why people engage in hookups and emphasizes the importance of sexual exploration and pleasure. It challenges the societal narrative that sex is best in a committed relationship and encourages individuals to give themselves permission to pursue casual sexual experiences and explore various sexual preferences. The episode discusses the benefits of hooking up as a means of discovering one's own desires and preferences, as well as understanding the diverse ways in which different people enjoy sex.
Overcoming Shame and Embracing Sexual Citizenship
The podcast explores how shame and societal norms often hinder individuals from engaging in hot, healthy, shame-free hookups. It emphasizes the need to unlearn shame-based messages surrounding sex and to challenge the stereotypes and expectations imposed by society. The episode highlights the importance of viewing sexuality as a form of self-expression and engaging in consensual sexual experiences that align with personal boundaries and desires. It encourages individuals to approach hookups with curiosity, open-mindedness, and the intention of treating sexual partners with dignity and respect.
Community Building and Creating Safe Hookup Spaces
The episode discusses the importance of finding sexual communities and creating safe spaces for hookups, especially for those who may not have access to sex-positive communities in their immediate surroundings. It suggests exploring virtual communities, connecting with like-minded individuals through online platforms, and potentially traveling to nearby cities or events to find sexual communities and like-minded people. The episode emphasizes the power of finding one's own sexual community, fostering connections, and creating an inclusive and consensual environment for hot, healthy, shame-free hookups.
What exactly is a "hookup"? How can we create hot, healthy, shame free hookups? Is there such a thing as good etiquette for casual sex?
In this week’s episode, Effy is joined by sex educator and author Allison Moon to discuss casual sex. They discuss hookup culture and how we can and should “be excellent to each other” as members of a sexual community. Effy and Allison consider how our approach to casual sex partners can be a reflection of our humanity and what we can do as “sexual citizens” to reform hookup culture.
To learn more about Allison Allison Moon is the author of five books including the instant classic sex-ed guide Girl Sex 101 and Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex. She has been quoted in Cosmopolitan, New York magazine, and The Washington Post. A popular sex educator, Allison has presented her workshops — on strap-on sex, polyamory, sexual self-expression, erotica writing, and more — to thousands of people around the US and Canada. Inspired by her sex education work, Moon writes screenplays, stage plays, and teleplays that explore the complexities of identity, sexuality and desire,