16. Dr. Rick's Foolproof Formula for Reconciliation | John Ortberg
Sep 30, 2024
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John Ortberg, a renowned speaker and author focused on spiritual growth, joins to dive into the intricate dynamics of relationships. They explore the crucial distinction between forgiveness and reconciliation, introducing the CRAFT model for effective conflict resolution. Emotional flooding and its impact on communication are examined, along with strategies for managing intense feelings. The importance of pausing during heated discussions is highlighted, wrapped up with a prayer to enhance emotional awareness in relationships.
The CRAFT model provides a structured approach to reconciliation, emphasizing the importance of communication and emotional regulation during conflicts.
Viewing conflicts as opportunities for growth and connection can enhance relationships when managed through effective resolution strategies.
Deep dives
Understanding Relational Conflict
Relational conflict is a natural occurrence in close relationships, and it’s inevitable that individuals will hurt one another at times. The key to navigating these conflicts lies not in the absence of disagreement, but in the ability to handle the repair and recovery processes effectively. Recognizing that conflicts can be opportunities for growth is crucial, as they allow for a deeper connection between individuals when managed appropriately. Tools and strategies for conflict resolution are essential to foster trust and strengthen relationships, as avoiding conflict can lead to unresolved issues that may harm the relationship in the long run.
The CRAFT Model for Reconciliation
The CRAFT model, which stands for Getting Conversational, Recalling, Apologizing, Forgiving, and Talking about the conflict, serves as a structured approach to effective reconciliation. Starting with 'Getting Conversational' emphasizes the importance of cooling down and being in the right emotional state before addressing conflicts, as reacting impulsively can lead to further damage. 'Recalling' involves both parties reflecting on the incident to accurately understand perspectives, while 'Apologizing' differentiates between shallow apologies and genuine expressions of remorse. The final steps encourage mutual forgiveness and discussing the conflict to derive lessons that enhance the relationship, ultimately promoting emotional growth and closeness.
Emotional Flooding Awareness
Emotional flooding can complicate conflict resolution, as heightened emotions may obstruct rational thinking and problem-solving abilities. Recognizing when one is flooded and taking steps to calm down, such as pausing or engaging in a physical activity, can significantly improve the ability to navigate through conflicts. It highlights the importance of self-awareness and communication, which can foster healthier interactions, especially in sensitive situations. Acknowledging that emotions can override good intentions allows individuals to approach conflicts more thoughtfully and can lead to more constructive resolutions.
This devo originally aired during our Forgiveness series. To view the entire series, check out our library.
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