Does Parenting Have To Be So High Stakes? | Lane Shackleton (father of 3, CPO at Coda)

Lane Shackleton is the Chief Product Officer of Coda, where he has worked for over 8 years. Prior to that he had a 9+ year career at Google and Youtube as a product manager and leader. He’s a loving husband and the father of three kids. In today's conversation we discussed:

* How to motivate and teach lessons to your kids through “quests”

* Lowering the pressure on high-stakes parenting

* Two actions that can solve most of the challenges you’ll experience with your kids

* The difference in feeling overwhelmed between a parent and a professional

* Why parenting overwhelm can be so much harder to work through

* Leveraging technology as a builder vs. a passive consumer

* Balancing being a startup executive with coaching a baseball team full of 9 year olds — and which one is harder

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Where to find Lane Shackleton

* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laneshackleton/

* Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/lshackleton

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In this episode, we cover

[1:53] Welcome

[2:23] Wine & software

[4:57] Quests with your kids

[10:30] Childhood

[11:45] How did your son get into baseball?

[13:54] Family now

[15:24] Decision to start a family?

[16:18] Earliest memory of becoming a dad

[18:00] Feeling of overwhelm

[20:58] Most surprising thing about becoming a dad

[24:47] Not everything is high stakes

[28:59] Solving problems with kids

[32:35] Favorite book to read to kids

[33:58] Frameworks

[36:46] Has parenting changed your management style?

[40:17] Where do Lane and his partner not align

[41:39] Kid’s relationship to tech

[45:28] What did you give up to become a dad?

[47:07] How do you recharge your batteries?

[49:10] Startup hustle culture

[52:08] Rapid fire

[58:18] Thank you

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Show references:

Bruce Bolt batting gloves:https://brucebolt.us/

Napa: https://www.cityofnapa.org/

Coda: https://coda.io/

YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/

Google: google.com

Atlanta, GA: https://www.atlantaga.gov/

 CPMC: https://www.sutterhealth.org/cpmc

Field of Dreams:https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0097351/

Llama Llama: https://llamallamabook.com/books/

You Can Play Sports Board book by Nicole Stoltenberg: https://www.amazon.com/Play-Sports-Nicole-Todd-Stoltenberg/dp/0578878224

Lorax: https://www.amazon.com/Lorax-Classic-Seuss-Dr/dp/0394823370

Luca: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt12801262/

Stripe: https://stripe.com/

Sound Machine: https://www.amazon.com/Magicteam-Machine-Looping-Soothing-Function/dp/B07RWRJ4XW/ref=zg_bs_g_18746767011_d_sccl_1/143-4646178-9363038?psc=1

Cascade Falls: https://www.alltrails.com/trail/us/california/cascade-falls

Cocomelon: https://cocomelon.com/

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