Undaunted.Life: A Man's Podcast by Kyle Thompson WARREN FARRELL | Role Mate To Soul Mate (Ep. 449)
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Apr 4, 2023 Warren Farrell, an influential author and political scientist known as the 'father of the men’s movement,' shares insights from his new online course, Role Mate to Soul Mate. He discusses strategies to avoid defensiveness in arguments and how to steer your partner gently in a desired direction. The conversation highlights the importance of transforming criticism into connection and the role of appreciation in deepening intimacy. Farrell emphasizes the need for effective communication post-conflict to nurture understanding and emotional safety in relationships.
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Criticism Is A Survival Signal
- Criticism historically signals threat so people naturally go defensive rather than receptive.
- Warren Farrell reframes criticism as an opportunity to deepen love to change that reflexive response.
Japanese 'Snack' Bars As A Listening Outlet
- Farrell noticed Japanese 'snack' bars where men paid women to listen so they wouldn't trouble their wives.
- He used this cultural example to illustrate men's unmet need to be understood at home.
Meditate Before Tough Conversations
- Before hearing criticism, meditate into a mindset that associatesthe critique with potential deeper love.
- Use this altered state to stay receptive instead of becoming defensive when your partner speaks.