440: Tools for Parenting a "Spicy" Child // Mary Van Geffen

Oh, the stories I could tell about raising a strong-willed child.

 

But the truth is, if you have a spicy one of your own, you don’t need to hear my stories because you’ve got plenty of your own! Parenting an intense, persistent, sensitive kiddo is a daily rollercoaster. And sometimes, what you need most isn’t another “quick fix”… it’s a wise, compassionate mentor who truly gets it.

That’s why I’m so excited to re-share this conversation with Mary Van Geffen, an international parenting coach who specializes in helping moms of "spicy" ones. Mary’s work is rooted in self-compassion, calm leadership, and connection over control - and her advice is the kind that actually works for kids who don’t respond to conventional parenting strategies.

This episode is part of our SAM 6 Summer Series, where we’re exploring the six principles of the Self-Assured Motherhood Framework. Today’s focus is the sixth and final principle: Support Their Struggles. It’s about showing up for your child with tenderness in their hardest moments - and learning how to support yourself in the process, too.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

🌶️ What to do when your child’s intensity makes you wonder if you’re the problem

🌶️ A daily mindset mantra that can transform how you see your spicy one

🌶️ Why your physical posture might be sending your child a louder message than your words

Whether your summer has been sweet, spicy, or somewhere in between, I hope this episode will remind you that you’re not alone… and you’re doing better than you think.

For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.

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426: What to Do When You Don’t Like Your Kid (Even Though You Love Them!)

423: How to Parent a Strong-Willed Child Without Losing Your Mind // Kirk Martin

357: Tips for Staying Calm During Your Big Kid’s Big Meltdowns // Cheryl Cardall

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