Marriage Truth Bombs with Christopher West | Advice on Pain, Healing, and Joy

Why does marriage hurt—and why is that actually a good thing? In this powerful and incredibly vulnerable episode, I sit down with Dr. Christopher West, the world’s leading communicator of Theology of the Body, for one of the deepest conversations we’ve ever had on this show.

Christopher doesn’t just teach TOB…he lives it. And today he opens up about the most intimate parts of his story—the childhood wounds that shaped him, the pain that almost broke him, and the moment his wife told him he was "in no place" to write a book of advice for husbands.

Christopher has spent his career sharing the truth that the path to true joy always passes through suffering, especially in marriage, where spouses should be carrying the cross together.

This interview is PACKED with wisdom on what a real marriage looks like—backed up by Church teachings, the writings of St. John Paul II, and Christopher's lived experience.

The ups and downs of married life are not always pretty...but they are beautiful. You might need to watch this one a few times to take in all the nuggets of advice!

Highlights:

00:00 Intro
02:59 Chris & Christopher: friendship, vulnerability, and real ministry
07:50 The book deal & Wendy’s truth bomb: “You’re in no place to write that book.”
13:40 The ache of desire: Star Wars, Springsteen, and the hunger of the heart
15:50 The “starvation gospel” vs. the “fast-food gospel”
19:52 Dorm-room trauma & the desperate prayer that began his conversion
25:02 “You don’t know how to love me” — the breakup that launched his mission
30:04 Discovering John Paul II’s Theology of the Body and realizing “this is the answer”
41:03 When ideals hit real marriage: masks, control, and Wendy’s long, painful honesty
50:45 Trying to protect your spouse—but causing harm
55:19 The “sweat lodge prayer” of marriage
56:20 Marriage pain as a feature, not a bug — the cross, purification, and real hope for couples
1:02:14 Why marriage pain is lifelong (and worth it)
1:04:18 Theology of the Body as a North Star in marriage
1:07:01 "Hell is the destiny of those who who refuse purification."
1:14:35 Any path to true fulfillment requires suffering
1:17:37 Prayer for healing your heart and marriage

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