One of the things Laurence and Carlos are really passionate about at the Happy Startup School is helping entrepreneurs build businesses that are aligned to who they really are.

Most people they work with are experienced professionals or seasoned business owners who are looking for a different work path: a path that feels less effortful and alive.

Up until now the path they’ve followed seemed like the right one as they felt like they were achieving and succeeding. However, they were eventually left feeling drained and even burnt out.

According to Gaiai Pollini, one of the causes for this is that they weren’t being true to themselves. They had made decisions and taken actions that weren’t actually theirs. They were based on behaviours that were learned at a young age in order to meet their needs and which have stayed with them into adulthood.

If you start a business to make a fundamental change in your life but base your decisions on your adaptive behaviours, there’s a good chance you won’t make the change you wanted.

To make this change you need to identify the source you. Your source is true and fresh in the moment while your layers of adaptive behaviours can constrict and constrain.

In this episode, Gaia shares the five different styles of adaptation she uses in her work:

• The outsider
• The helper
• The super person
• The people pleaser
• The perfectionist

This conversation will help you explore yourself with curiosity and self-kindness and invite you to do some self-reflection so that when you come to creating something new in your life, it will be relevant to your truth, and who you really are.

Links

• The F**k it Life
• Say F**k it and Feel the Fear – the Happy Entrepreneur podcast, with John Parkin
• Join the conversation live
• Become a member of the Happy Startup School
• Join the next Vision 20/20 cohort