Bob Ewing, founder of the Ewing School and writer of Talking Big Ideas, discusses the importance of communication, redefining status games, living a fulfilling life, steel manning arguments, the impact of AI, and the concept of changing minds.
Effective communication involves actively listening and making others feel important, while focusing on non-zero-sum games where everyone wins.
Developing social skills, including public speaking and listening, will be crucial amidst technological advancements in the economy.
Deep dives
The Importance of Effective Communication and Listening
Effective communication and listening are crucial in human interactions and relationships. Bob Ewing, founder of the Ewing School, discusses how our default communication style often focuses on elevating our own status, but we can shift this by listening to others and making them feel important. By focusing on non-zero-sum games, where everyone wins, and actively listening and supporting others, we can improve our communication skills and create meaningful connections. Bob emphasizes the importance of understanding the audience, clarifying our message, and delivering it effectively, both in public speaking and everyday conversations.
The Art of Speaking Well and Understanding Communication
Bob Ewing highlights the key aspects of speaking effectively. He emphasizes the importance of starting with good listening skills and understanding the audience. Crafting a well-rounded and meaningful speech involves considering the audience's interests, clarifying our main idea, and delivering it in an engaging way. Bob also discusses the difference between public speaking and everyday conversations, where understanding the context and audience becomes crucial. He encourages individuals to develop both eloquence and authenticity, pushing through the 'uncanny valley' to become confident and natural speakers.
The Power of Supportive Listening
Bob Ewing emphasizes the transformative power of supportive listening. He explains that our default communication style tends to focus on shifting the conversation back to ourselves, hindering effective connection. Instead, by providing authentic support and actively listening to others, we can create a positive impact in their lives. Bob shares the importance of understanding the other person's feelings and thoughts, validating their perspectives, and avoiding being self-absorbed. By adopting a support response rather than a shift response, we can build stronger connections and enhance our overall well-being.
The Rise of Social Skills in a Tech-Driven World
Bob Ewing acknowledges the disruptive effects of artificial intelligence and other technologies, emphasizing the increasing significance of social skills. As advancements in technology reshape the economy, social skills, such as effective communication, will become more crucial than ever. Bob suggests that individuals should focus on developing social skills, including public speaking and listening, as these skills will continue to differentiate individuals in various aspects of life. Regardless of technological changes, the ability to connect with others and build meaningful relationships will remain a valuable asset.
Bob Ewing is the founder of the Ewing School, which helps clients with public speaking and listening skills, and writes the Substack Talking Big Ideas. Today we talk about communication, breaking it down into the components of speaking and listening. We discuss why communication is so important and how it can bring value and guide success, and what success might mean.