Meg O'Neill, a marketing coach and community expert, and Rebecca Minor, a gender specialist and clinician, dive into the vibrant conversation around bisexuality in their own encounters. They discuss the challenges of compulsory heterosexuality and how societal norms often erase bisexual identities, particularly for men. The duo highlights their community, bi+(in)visibility, which provides support for those realizing their identities later in life. Their insights emphasize the importance of safe spaces, storytelling, and sharing experiences to foster acceptance and connection.
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Meg's Late Bi Discovery
Meg discovered her bisexual identity in her late 30s after years of not having language for her feelings.
Growing up Catholic, she thought marriage to a man was the only future, which delayed her self-understanding.
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Gender Socialization Blocks Desire
Socialization pressures teach us to minimize our desires if they conflict with gender norms.
Many femme folks are just starting to explore what it means to honor their queerness authentically.
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Explore Your Authentic Desires
Get curious and hold space to explore your authentic desires personally.
Honest self-reflection can reveal whether you even like what you've been societally conditioned to pursue.
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This week we have two guests joining us, Meg O’Neill and returning guest to the pod, Gender Specialist therapist and educator Rebecca Minor (from episode 36!). They are the women behind bi+(in)visibility, a community and supportive space for folks who are discovering their biness and queerness later in life.
In this conversation, we chat about their group, Meg’s own personal story of understanding her bi identity in her late thirties, and about the wide variety of experiences folks can have when uncovering and integrating their biness into their lives, including:
the experience of bi folks, pan folks, and queer folks who are in straight presenting relationships,
how compulsory heterosexuality can become so deeply engrained for folks and lead to many bi and pan folks to acknowledge their own queerness,
the ways our culture seems more permissive and inclusive of women and femmes to be bi but not men,
the experience of feeling “not queer enough,”
navigating the privilege of straight passability and the need to not have our identities erased,
and so much more!
About the guests: Meg O'Neill (she/her) seems like the "typical" suburban PTO mom. Married to her husband, Matt, of 13 years. Mom of three kids. Business owner, avid reader and passionate about all things equity. Enter lots of time at home during COVID and TikTok and she soon realized she needed to be more vocal about the other side of her life that he kept quiet for years. Deep on a healing journey of realizing she was neurodivergent, and bisexual, she started sharing more about these topics and soon realized other people desired community around being bisexual in a heter-presenting relationship. Meg and Rebecca started a monthly online group called bi+(in)visibility where people can come together to explore the topic of bisexuality. You can learn more about the group and sign up here.
Rebecca Minor, MSW, LICSW (she/her) is a neuroqueer femme, clinician, consultant, and educator specializing in the intersection of trauma, gender, and sexuality. As a Gender Specialist, Rebecca partners with trans and gender nonconforming youth through their journey of becoming, and is a guide to their parents in affirming it. Rebecca is part-time faculty at Boston University School of Social work and always works through a lens that is neurodiversity-affirming, trauma-informed, and resilience-oriented. In addition to her clinical work, Rebecca has provided cultural humility training and consultation to organizations, schools, and businesses for the past decade. You can follow her work on IG at @gender.specialist or visit www.genderspecialist.com.
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