73. Raeann Downloaded a Sex Positive Dating App

Here’s what happened. A few months ago, Raeann’s friend told her about this app. It’s called feeld, and it focuses on establishing connections based on your sexual desires in the “spirit of openness and experimentation.” Because she’s someone who approaches things with an open and curious mindset, she downloaded it and made a profile. Find out in this episode how she ended up having “a more positive experience” than other dating apps, got out of her comfort zone, and learned how to be up front with her expectations sooner in her dating life. P.S. This one might make you blush.

 

“I’ve been thinking about sober dating, as in not drinking on the first date. I think what is happening is that I’m getting drunk on the first date, which is fun. But then I’ve got the drunk goggles on, which is why I’m so obsessed with them at first.” - Raeann

 

What we talk about:

• A pattern Raeann has noticed in her dating life 

• What Kristina’s loving about rediscovering play through motherhood

• How Rae’s views on sex have evolved over time

• Raeann reads examples of different types of profiles on the app and her own profile

• What has happened on dates with men she met on the app

• What she has learned about her own sexual desires and needs before having sex through this experience

• Ask away: Am I rude AF to my significant other?

 

“What I've learned is that they might be on to something with having these conversations earlier on. It does tell you a lot about a person outside of even sexual things: how they can communicate, how open they are, how they are able to compromise. It’s just wild to have these conversations I’d never traditionally have on the first date.” - Raeann

 

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Resources:

• Check out the app: feeld

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• Raeann’s obsessed with: bikinis from Montce Swim

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