The Baggage Reclaim Sessions Ep. 178: About Allowing You To Feel Angry
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Apr 10, 2020 Explore the importance of feeling anger and how ignoring it affects your well-being. Discover why people often mask their anger with pleasantries and avoid giving honest feedback. Learn how unresolved anger can resurface unexpectedly and the role of people-pleasing as a form of silent rage. Engage in practical steps to process your emotions, including journaling about what angers you and recognizing signs of unresolved feelings. Unpack the connection between past experiences and present anger, and understand how acknowledging them can empower personal boundaries.
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Suppressed Anger Reappears Unexpectedly
- Many people deny or minimise anger and later react disproportionately when similar situations recur.
- Natalie Lue explains suppressed anger resurfaces as unexpected indignation or disproportionate responses.
The Receipt Roll-Up Moment
- Natalie describes putting on a smile and people-pleasing to mask hurt, then producing a list of slights when it breaks.
- She illustrates flipping out with ‘receipts’ after holding anger inside for too long.
People-Pleasing As Silent Rage
- People-pleasing can be a form of silent rage that conceals unresolved hurt and anger.
- Natalie Lue calls this behaviour a mask that teaches others how to treat us while hiding our true feelings.