Dialectic 23: Tamara Winter - Tacit Trust & Caring Curiosity
Tamara Winter, the Commissioning Editor at Stripe Press, shares her passion for uncovering impactful ideas for a better internet. She delves into the importance of tacit knowledge and small talk in building trustful relationships. Tamara discusses her unique career path, the significance of aesthetics in publishing, and how personal charisma can shape connections. She emphasizes the value of genuine curiosity, reflective writing, and the cultural nuances of agency in our lives, all while celebrating the beauty of human interactions.
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Load-Bearing Social Infrastructure
- Healthy societies have hidden social infrastructures enabling safe, frictionless daily life.
- Trust allows people to move freely without constant vigilance or fear of exploitation.
Cultural Arson Harms Society
- Cultural arson describes behaviors that degrade societal trust and norms incrementally.
- Small acts like fare evasion or petty theft ripple into larger social decay.
Reject Excuses for Disorder
- Avoid excusing bad behavior as systemic inevitability.
- Improving society means making it better, not just exposing rot or justifying harm.
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Intro
00:00 • 2min
Understanding Taste: Influences and Intuition in Creativity
01:31 • 20min
The Importance of Self-Respect and Beautiful Aesthetics in Publishing
21:43 • 2min
The Value of Tacit Knowledge
24:02 • 4min
The Charisma Connection: Building Meaningful Relationships
28:15 • 17min
The Power of Small Talk
45:45 • 17min
Exploring Cultural Norms and Perceptions of Agency
01:02:18 • 2min
The Ripple Effects of Minor Dishonesty
01:04:22 • 3min
Urban Safety and Social Dynamics
01:07:04 • 5min
Mercy, Agency, and Influence
01:12:18 • 16min
Navigating Success in a Media-Driven World
01:28:39 • 8min
Intentional Connections and Reflective Writing
01:37:05 • 20min
The Power of Reading and Life Lessons
01:57:19 • 14min
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Tamara Winter (X) is the Commissioning Editor of Stripe Press, where she exercises her taste to identify the knowledge and "ideas for progress" that matter most in alignment with Stripe's mission: to increase the GDP of the internet.
"Tammy" worked at the Charter Cities Institute and the Mercatus Center at George Mason University, which is chaired by Tyler Cowen.
Tammy is obsessed with tacit knowledge and the illegible parts of the world that actually support so much of our lives, work, and societies. This includes taste, charisma, relationships, and a wide-range of load-bearing infrastructure that supports healthy and trustful societies, from small-talk and manners to hidden forces that prevent anti-social behavior and maintain safe places to live and work.
We discuss this and more, including how she selects the ideas worthy of Stripe's audience, her unique career path, her refreshing take on agency, her standards for herself, reading and writing, and how she chooses how to spend her time. Above all, Tammy's incredible love of other people shines throughout the conversation.
Full episode transcript with all linked references: https://dialectic.fm/tamara-winter
Timestamps
- 2:09: Taste, absorbtion, and influences
- 10:54: Deploying your taste
- 15:49: Ideas that matter and taking yourself seriously
- 22:13: Aesthetics
- 24:16: Choosing Teachers and Authors
- 28:15: Charisma & delightfullness privilege
- 34:59: Living a relational life
- 44:07: Trust, social scaffolding, and small talk
- 51:01: Erosion of social norms, low-trust environments, and load-bearing infrastructure
- 1:02:17: Cultural arson and the dark sides of "you can just do things"
- 1:15:44: The healthy kind of agency
- 1:20:45: Tammy's N-of-1 path and who she aspires to rhyme with
- 1:28:38: Red herrings of success and focusing on outcomes
- 1:32:22: Assortive everything
- 1:37:52: Personal and professional standards
- 1:43:06: Journaling, great writing, and audience
- 1:57:29: Reading & Biographies
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