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Jun 20, 2022
Barry Tressler, a financial therapist and founder of The Art of Money, shares unique insights on healing money relationships. He discusses the emotional turmoil around finances, emphasizing the importance of addressing shame and anxiety before tackling bookkeeping. Barry introduces a concept called 'money dates,' a structured approach that helps couples share their money stories, values, and responsibilities. He advocates for checking in with your body and allowing space for conversation, helping partners build a compassionate dialogue around finances.
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Money As A Relationship
- Money is a relationship that mirrors our identity, family history, and self-worth.
- Barry Tressler says you can rewrite your money story and change your financial identity moving forward.
They Would Rather Talk Sex Than Numbers
- A workshop participant refused to share her financial numbers but would discuss her sex life with the group.
- Barry used this story to show how much harder money disclosure feels than sexual disclosure for many people.
Shame Is The First Layer
- Shame is usually the first emotion people feel around money across backgrounds.
- Barry Tressler says shame cloaks money emotions and must be acknowledged before change.
