Trent says he's been paralyzed by fear of not taking a risk. He wants to date someone, but is too worried about the consequences if it fails. Anmang merfe: Is this my mind's way of protecting me? Am i going to reject them before they reject me? And so if the answer is yes, then i'm not saying that you have to date them,. At least acknowledge that and ask yourself, ok, like, is the fear too strong? Or can i actually, like, give this a shot?