In your family, what i'm hearing is that there were very clear rolls. There was like a very lop sided like, caretaker and care receiver,. And so this is a challenge for for basically all families and all parents. What really has to happen in healthy relationships as we have to sort of almost become like colleagues are at the same level as our parents. For such a long time, you've needed to be taken care of. You don't have to do it much any more.