You are setting up a problem for yourself that you cannot win, right? Sur? And so ie, this is what exhausts frustrates and makes people want to give up. The reason that you try is because you're trying to get everyone to love you. At the core of it, you feel like you're unlovable. You've been learning this lesson over and over and over again with individual people, but you haven't learned it in general. This is a problem of you watching too much of our content. It's a little bit of a joke. So i'm glad you've learned a lot, but i'm going, i'm going to try to,. i'm going